Make a Counseling Appointment: [email protected] | (850) 450-7223

  • Senior Dating: Tips to Finding Your Silver Mojo

    Dating. It’s not easy at any age, but it can be downright tough for those in the 60+ category. The world has most likely changed significantly since the last time you were on the dating scene. You’ve probably changed a bit yourself. Love, loss, careers, raising a family, etc. have all impacted who you are and how you feel about life and the world around you.

    While it may feel intimidating at first, dating after the age of 60 can actually be a lot of fun. It will require you to perhaps adjust your mindset and find some courage, but once you put yourself out there, you might be surprised just how easy it is to connect with others in both platonic and romantic ways.

     

    Here are some dating tips to get you started:

    Practice Smiling

    Many people, as they get older, smile less. Perhaps they are missing loved ones who have passed, are struggling with retirement, or are in chronic physical pain. But smiling is something that lights up our faces and instantly attracts other people to us. If you feel you haven’t been smiling as much as you used to, get back into the habit. Watch some favorite comedies, hang out with your grandkids more often and play with the neighbor’s dog. The more you smile, the better you feel and more attractive you become.

    Start a Conversation

    Now is not the time to be shy. If you see someone that catches your eye while out at a coffee shop or standing in line at the grocery store, strike up a conversation. You could say something as simple as, “Are the bagels good here” or “I always seem to pick the busiest times to shop.” The idea is to simply start a conversation and see where it goes. If nothing else, you may make some new coffee shop friends!

    Focus on Your Interests

    You’ll have a better chance of meeting a potential partner who is like-minded if you focus on your interests and hobbies. If you like art and culture, then spend more time at museums or the bookstore. Are you a dog nut? Then perhaps volunteer at a local animal shelter. Focusing on your own hobbies and interests will bring you joy at the same time, and that joy will make you incredibly attractive to others.

    Go Online

    Sites like Match.com and EHarmony.com make it incredibly easy for you to look for potential dates online. You can browse hundreds of profiles at your own pace and reach out to those people who strike your fancy. Don’t assume that online dating is for younger people. It’s for anyone with an internet connection and a desire to meet people.

     

    Word of Caution

    Take it slow and exercise caution about how quickly you let a stranger into the details of your life. Go out with friends, meet in neutral places, and don’t talk finances too soon. Notice red flags – never having money to pay their part of dating expenses, being in-between jobs, waiting for money to come in, and sketchy information about where they live are some indications that you may want to look further for a soulmate. You don’t want to carry a relationship in any area – finances, emotional availability, or stability. You are looking for a partner – not a project!

    If you follow these tips, you may meet some wonderful people and they might just have the chance to see how wonderful you are, too. And who knows, one of them could be that special someone.

    Considering getting back into the dating scene? Counseling can help you process any pain from past relationships or life losses to help you bring your best self to a new relationship. We can help. Call 850.450.7223 today or make an appointment in our online portal here. https://believehopeinspire.securepatientarea.com/portal/calendar/weeks/ Not quite ready but would like to find more tips and tools in life? We’ve got a blog for that. Find out more here.https://believehopeinspire.com/blog/ Best of luck to you!

    P. Dianne Presley, LCSW

    Owner/Foudner

    Believe, Hope, Inspire Wellness Services LLC

    Tallahassee, FL

    850.450.7223